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Thursday, July 31, 2008

Just another piece of the puzzle...

What matters to us most in life?... Family, Career, Passion, Health?? the list goes on. So how do you balance and allocate the time for each things that is important to you? Here's what you should do... list the things that is important to you. And I believe basically there are 4 things:
1.Spirituality and Personal Development
2.Family & Relationship
4.Personal Care & Health.
Try to honestly asses how much time you give to each of these basic needs. Do you for example devote 80% of your time to work and expect that your family life to be rich and rewarding. Do spent 10% of your time caring for your health and wonder why you always falls sick most of the time. Or do you allocate 70% of your time for the family and get frustrated that your career are not taking off in flying colors. Well.. something have to give in, to be sacrifice, to be compromise.
You got to identify and choose your priority. Once you have done that, then give yourself credit, a pat on the back, if you have done well in the chosen prioritised area. Try to cut down on your worries, the thing is to plan your life and not to worry about things that may or may not happen. And the most important thing of all is ... LOVE YOURSELF FIRST... this act of loving yourself will act like a shield that will protect you from those challenges life will throw at you... So try it. Life is like a puzzle, but like what my beloved friend used to say... the picture is up to us to create

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

The young people...

Monday, July 28, 2008

I dont believe it....

Dont expect anything fantastic from this new episode of the X-files movie. After the wait of about 6 years, the outcome is totally disappointing. I would have waited another 6 years if Chirs Carter would just comes up with something as extraordinary, as the first movie. The acting is bad, the plot is shallow - to the point of being predictable, though the entrance of "Skinner" at the last few minutes managed to lift the show abit to me, I totally give this movie a 2 thumbs down. Even "Dexter" (new drama series about a guy with psychotic killing problem) is total better in term of plot and acting. Makes me wonder why do Chris Cater would have bothered with all the hype about keeping the plot details a closely kept secret... unless they dont want the viewers to know how lousy-shit the movie is...

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Tying the knot or making a noose...

Marriages, babies, parenthood, careers.. these are issues thats were always binds together as one. Its is something that no guidebook can be created to help one understand the way to face these issues heads on. Why are young dating couples do not have that confidence to walk the path that many dreaded..?. My guess, personally, its all boils down to FINANCES. Just look at the start of the whole affair... The Marriage Celebration.. the $5million wedding ring, the Honeymoon holidays etc etc.. Yes, we can make do with what we can afford... easily said ... But not good enough to counter the peer pressure from relatives and others.

Surprisingly, statistics shows that... "more Singaporeans do want to get married — eight in 10, from six in 10 during a 2004 survey. - Today Paper" And most have reservation about being.. "economically successful" in sustaining a happy marriage. My advise to young dating couples is, please understand the concept of marriage first before you embark on these road of thorn and roses. Dont do it for reasons between the sheets. That will probably last the most 30 minutes.

Have the endurance to face the hardship together. Be realistic in expectation and accept your partner as he or she is... Tying the knot with these simple basic understanding is good enough to avoid creating a noose for yourself...

Monday, July 21, 2008

My personal view..

After putting up my blog for about 2 months, I realised that it is actually doesn't depict the real picture of me. I am actually quite a old fashioned and conservative guy. And yet I went thru and paid for a course in creating a blog. I guess, may be I wanted to portray a different side of me in a state of anonymity. Some may called it a sign of lacking in confidence while I may called an avenue to be someone else in a different environment.

But now I realised, if we are not careful in what we wrote in our blog or "digital public diary", personal issues may well be, unintentionally, a public discussion topic. Be it relationship issues, office matters, family matters and so on. Unless you want it to be, I think personal issues should well be kept within closed circle of trusted aquaintance. My point is, why put up issues that only reflect the weaker side of oneself and let your character be trampled upon with unconstructive comments? The way I see it is that, if you need the world to solve your personal problem, my view is you need to be careful of what people would think of you.

My comment may be wrong, given the "infant period" that I am in within this new platform. But then again, it is a platform for me to express my personal view rite.. or is it not?

Sunday, July 20, 2008


Thursday, July 17, 2008

As I mature..

As I mature

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people are just assholes

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes After that, you'd better have a big willy or huge boobs

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others - they are more screwed up than you think

I've learned that you can keep vomiting long after you think you're finished

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, unless we are celebrities

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades, and there had better be a lot of money to take its place!

I've learned that 99% of the time when something isn't working in your house, one of your kids did it

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon and all the less important ones never go away

Its tough shit...

Monday, July 14, 2008

They just dont get it...

The routine that comes after Sunday is something that everyone have to face whether they like it or not. Its WORK, DEADLINE & CHECKING SCHEDULES for submission etc etc etc.

But what really pissed me off is being given a "FALSE DEADLINE". This is when some superior asshole makes you work your butt off, burning your weekend and all only to be told later,: "Its a job well done... but you know what... I got good news for you! I have managed to pushed the deadline 1 week later so we can comes out another visual!!!". And they waited for me to give him a rounding applause.

They just dont seem to realise, that its not a favour done. Its a opportunity lost to maximise your time.. and very demoralising.

And I comes across, one too many "nobrainer", personnel who just dont seem to understand why must they have to give this "FALSE DEADLINE". I get very upset when they did this.

So my advise to "DEADLINE RECEIVERS", pls ask them for the "TRUE DEALINE" before you embark on any project.. because most of these Project Managers dont understand time will makes the difference... they just dont get it...

Friday, July 11, 2008

Where we have been..

Thursday, July 10, 2008

Its a justified concern...

I have come across articles pertaining to foreign talents in Singapore. And most of it reflects the concern of how these foreign talents are depriving Singaporean of the right to jobs and livelihood. Its a justified concern and as a Singaporean I can empathise with them. I myself am surrounded by a few of them. A couple of them from India, China & Philippines. Its been about a couple of years now since they first came and work in my company.

And after working with them for a while I conclude that there are a few things that I find quite beneficial for me to share with all.

Most of them seems very enthusiastic and full of drive to the extent of forgoing any social life. This I can understand, as most of them are here all alone and their main aim are to earn as much as possible to meet their financial commitment. As most of them took financial loan to work overseas and hope to make good of their endeavour. They are also more willing to try new things and are always willing to stayed longer in office to complete a given task. Kind of reminding me when I started working years ago.

I guess I felt good with all these guys around me as, with all the enthusiasm and drives that they brought with them, it helps to re-ignite the fire within me that got lost somewhere along the road of my career. They also provide me with the challenged to justify my presence in my company as being relevant. That means I cant slackened. That to me is good. So though many may complain about their presence, I on the other hand, are looking at their presence as a time to reflect about oneself attitude towards our working life.

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

No Air...

I was with a friend who just got a Macbook Air after subscribing to Singnet Broadband. Well he need to topup about $1.2K to be able to received the Air in that promotion. Usually subscribers like myself will just get the Macbook.

After doing abit of calculations and getting on-hand test on the Air, I think it is quite a worthwhile investment. I never thought the Air can be quite fast in terms of speed in doing work with inDesign and Photoshop.

And of all the new features that they have in the Leopard (the latest OS for Mac), the "Time Machine" is the one that I found most impressive. For those who are not aware, the Time Machine only exist in the Apple Leopard Operating System. It is an application where it auto backup your files or if you ever need to retrieve or recover lost files. This application will virtually takes you back in time to retrieve it. And the interface is cool too.

But to utilise the use of the Time Machine, you need to have an external hardisk for this application. This will segregate the storage away from your main hardisk. That to me is a big set-back. I would'nt want to be carrying extra luggage when, in the first place, the reason of using a laptop is to make myself more light. Though I think you can partition its internal hardisk space to use the Time Machine, but the built-in storage for the Air is not really generous, only 80gb. So to partition it for the Time Machine will be too costly for its inbuilt space.

Another major point to note is that, the Air does not a disc drive.

Though I did not manage to get more time on the Air, (as most Mac owners are very possessive about their Mac products), I still think the Air is great for play and practical for work too. I know some will say that I am bias as I have been a Mac nerd for years but.. hey show a PC product that can convince me to think otherwise.

Monday, July 7, 2008

you are allowed to dream

Couple of weeks back, I managed to get myself to watched this movie together with my missus and my teenage daughter. Adila. Well, actually I was coaxed into watching this by my other half. But it turns out to be an experienced. As per normal, Adila was enjoying every moment of it and My wife was all teary after the show, which means she enjoyed it too.

But what I found most interesting was the fact that, the movie potrays ladies to be more sensitive, self-sacrificing, deceitful, smart and caring all in one mould. And the guy, well, just say that he had to even give a love letter send to him by an admirer, to his teacher to decide what to do with it... Quite sad huh, for a guy, in this show..

Anyway, looking from a perspective a guy who is good enough to be a father-in-law to someone, I managed to find a message in this movie which will benefit all you guys..( or male youth for that matter ). The message is,.. be good and nice to whoever, wherever as you never know who is watching. But then, it makes your deed kind of fake is it? So the thing is, be sincere and just hope a rich man's daughter is watching you.. Well boys, you are allowed to dream once a while.

But I actually liked the theme song, sang by Rossa. The tune seems nice, checked it out here..

Sunday, July 6, 2008

about true friendship

The thing about friendship is quite unique. It has a no boundariies. The bond that builds up during the process is created along the way from one common interest. Just like my Fishing buddies. They came from all walks of life, Teachers, Technician, Courier Guys, and many more. But here we are coming all the way from different parts of Singapore, in the wee hours of the morning, just to enjoy each other company in a floating vessel, for atleast 8hours, away from land. No tv, no internet, no noisy automobiles and best of all no stress.

I was at the verge of being strike-off from the group list after I got myself distracted with something, that I think, was not really worthwhile for couple of weeks. I neglected them for quite a while. Did not return their call, never reply their sms, That was a big mistake... But I was forgiven. There you go, nothing like your fishing buddies, they are one of a kind. I managed to get myself reconnected again with them yesterday and we are planning for another trip soon. Really looking forward to it.

Thats the thing about true friendship, it can never be easily broken.. unlike most other things in life.

Friday, July 4, 2008

What self-denial is...

What is self-denial... It is the denying of truth within self, not for the sake of a greater good to self, but for the sake of good to what others will see. This is really denying self.

Some may look at it as a real sacrifice of self-interest, from disinterested motives; that is, from a singleness of eye, to glorify one deed, and do what they think is good to others.

We all do experienced this during the undulating route of our lives.. whether we like it or not. Some are able to do it better than others. And some may use it as a mission to accomplished the glorification of God. While others are just born in self-denial. But whatever it is, there are times when we have to be truthful to oneself to be able to live life full or we will be forever be life's fool...

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Not an entitlement but it is a privileged...

There is alot of things that you can do in this life. But only how much you would get appreciated is the issue. The irony is that, the things that you do out of loved could never be measured in any form, its a selfless act with no strings attached. It could be just a phone call, an email, a postcard or just a note to say “Hi” but the main question is, how is the reaction that comes from the other receiving end.

I personally felt a little disappointed with a couple of people closed to me that I felt was a little insensitive to the whole act of being cared for. Do we need to be taught how to react to someone who show you that they care for you... Or are we too individualistic or arrogant to think that this is something that we should received in the first place. or do we just take advantage of the situation knowing that someone who cares and loved you will always do this act even though you take it for granted.  A simple “SINCERE thanks” is not natural respond as I DESERVE to be treated this way. We feel that, we are there at top of the hierarchy and the only way is to look is: DOWN. Is that what we are now?

I think I have had enough of this. To  be loved is not an entitlement but it is a privileged given by someone who really cares for you. Appreciate it while you can. May be we are too self confident to think that there will always be someone who cares me... but just imagine if that is not true ..